Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Mary Jane Brooks Evans

Today was Maughi's funeral service. It seems so strange to type those words. As the pastor mentioned during his homily, if anyone were ever to discover the fountain of youth, it surely would have been our Maughi. She passed early in the morning on Thursday, November 8, at the age of 93 years young. She was comfortable, clean and thanked her nurses for taking such great care of her just moments before her passing. She drove herself around our mountain hometown up until a week before, couldn't wait to celebrate Thanksgiving in our new house in Atlanta and looked forward to holding her first great grandchild in January. Maughi had an email account she regularly used, could carry on a conversation with Josh about Cam Newton and loved a party...just make sure her scotch didn't have too much water in it. 

The service was beautiful and perfect. Maughi would have loved it. It was held at St. Philip's Episcopal Church in Brevard, NC, where Maughi was heavily involved right up until the end. There must have been a hundred and fifty people there. Maughi had just recently told my dad that everyone she loved was dead (we were all thinking, well thanks a lot...we are very much alive!). There sure were a lot of people at the service that loved HER...and she loved them too, this was just Maughi-talk. It was so touching to see so many people gathered to celebrate the life of this amazing woman. Some of them I knew well, some of them we were all meeting for the very first time. All of them were touched by my grandmother in different ways, all of them so sure that they had never, ever met anyone like her. I would have to agree.

Saturday, November 3, 2012
The pastor did something today he had never done at a funeral. He told a joke. It was a joke that Maughi shared with him when she met with him in June (unbeknownst to us) to discuss her service arrangements...or lack there of. She didn't want a typical service, didn't even want a eulogy, but simply wanted a party at our local favorite restaurant called Falls Landing (like we did for her 90th birthday). She wanted everyone to get together and tell their favorite jokes. If someone told one of her 3 favorite jokes, they were to be awarded $500, which had been sealed up in an envelope, along with her favorite jokes and a heartfelt letter to our family. This is so Maughi.

The joke-telling party will have to happen at a later date. Today was about celebrating her full life as a woman of such strong faith, independence and will. A wonderful eulogy was delivered against her wishes, but Maughi would have approved. I am so blessed to have had her in my life for almost 29 years. She has shaped me in countless ways and I hope that I can be more like her in my faith, concern for others and zest for life.

This is exactly how I will always remember Maughi. She lived life to its fullest and always loved a party.
And timing is a funny thing...Josh and I got a day-of appointment for a 3D ultrasound last Tuesday. Maughi got to see our baby girl's face on Wednesday, the day before she passed. She was so excited about the baby, her first great-grandchild. So excited that she had already bought 2 shower gifts, and had an outfit made for her. That outfit chokes me up and I can't wait to see EB in it.

Maughi told us in her letter that she had no idea why God had chosen her for such a joyous life. I can't imagine anyone more deserving of one. It is comforting to imagine Maughi partying upstairs with all of her loved ones...her late "love affair" husband (as she called him) who passed 28 years ago, the brother she lost at the age of 7, and so, so many dear friends. What a life she led here on Earth!


Linsey said...

Such a sweet tribute to a wonderful lady. This brought tears to my eyes. How wonderful that she planned a joke party! I know I think about her every time I see an airplane bottle. Ella Baisden has a special guardian angel watching over her each and every day.

Jan said...

Such a sweet tribute to your Maughi! I cried and laughed as I read it. When you mentioned that she said that all of her friends were gone it reminded me that Mr. Ashby had said the exact same thing about a month ago! I reminded him of some of the people that were still around and Maughi was one of them! He really enjoyed visiting with her when possible and I think they might have shared a few of those special drinks! I know you will all miss her terribly...we still can't believe Mema is no longer with us! Hugs to you and all of your family. We love you!

"miss' Beth said...

Wow! Georgia! you said it all. A great tribute to a dear, fun lady. I have so so so many fond heatwarming memories of you, Rachel, mom, dad and Mrs. Mary Jane. (I'm smiling as I type this too! ) It's really awesome that on the exact day of her Homegoing.... I had pulled HER wonderful Corn Chowder recipe from my file (titled as hers :} I love you all & I'm sending sincere condolences with bunches of hugs. GOD bless!

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